Meanwhile on the Rock, spring seemed to have manifested itself as I had been walking around in flip flops for several days in row, only for it to disappear when March showed up. In Lowlands Country Language we have an expression which translates like “March wags its tail” . It means that March does strange things and experiencing the wettest and windiest period to date with nights that are wintry cold all I can do is agree.
New Year happened quite a while ago and even the Chinese new year of the Horse, which started at the end of January seems to lie in a distant past. But today is a new day to celebrate, at least for half the population as it is International Women’s Day. I wonder how conscious people are of this day. It is not a public holiday and commercialism hasn’t jumped on the bandwagon yet, if it ever will. Also, those media and organisations who do mark Women’s Day tend not to celebrate womanhood, but pay attention to all the suffering women across the world are enduring, like economic inequality, sexual violence and just being patronised for not having a dick. Issues many a ‘self-respecting’ woman enslaved by commercialism and media imagery doesn’t like to be bothered with. There are shoes to be bought, physicalities to be sex-up, men- or the occasional woman- to be attracted and babies to be made. Surely, the issues endured by women across the world are for angry, hairy feminists to cover and who wants to be angry and hairy, or worse, a feminist! Eek!
As a Dark Fairy and a feminist, angry nor hairy though, I feel very blessed for the times and places I have been living in. Although I’ve never felt restricted because of gender and skin colour – with the exception maybe of not having the ability to pee standing up without any aids or turning red as a lobster due to a sunburn – I do feel that these lack of restrictions have more to do with my stubbornness rather than an always supportive environment. I understand that man and woman are not the same, but the big fat question is whether that differentness is predominantly biology or a social construct.
I wish there was no need for Women’s Day, but after a century of Women’s Days it seems more needed than ever. By marking Women’s Day it is not to say that men don’t suffer or that the inhumane issues women are facing are all men’s fault. It’s not about divide and blame. It is fact though, that there where people are suffering women often suffer slightly or a whole lot more.
It’s is not just men who are part of the problem as women can be their own worst enemy. Find below Dark Fairy tips for a happier sisterhood:
* If you like to get ahead in life do good, don’t be nice. Being nice didn’t get anyone anywhere
* treat other women as your sisters, not as competition. Your insecurity shouldn’t be made their problem
* reduce or eliminate the celebrity culture diet. It’s made to make you feel inferior and buy more stuff you don’t need and it is not other women you’re making rich in the process, so within the sisterhood everyone loses.
* don’t judge other women on their appearance and ‘femininity’; live and let live
* don’t seek a man’s – or anyone’s- approval. You’re not a dog and he’s not your master
* feel good within yourself it inspires others to do the same
Note to men:
Besides a feminist I’m a humanist too and I think you’re fabulous.
Happy Women’s Day to all of Humanity